The Doctors Just Gave MrMaryLou 1-3 Months To Live :(

[Greenguy]

MrMaryLou went in for his biopsy results today & our worst fears have been confirmed.

It is cancer, it is Stage 4, it is spreading. Their best guess is that it will take him from us in the next 3 months.

I am loosing my friend & I am at a total loss for words.

[LD]

Goddam that sucks.

[Cleo]

Very, very sad. :(

When I heard that he had lung cancer I knew what to expect though. It killed both my parents, my friend Bill, whose macaws I now keep, and many other people that I know. It is the main reason that I've never smoked cigarettes.

[Greenguy]

Actually, it started in his kidneys & moved to his lungs & ribs.

[ArtWilliams]

I am so sorry to hear that. |sad|

[Cleo]

Actually, it started in his kidneys & moved to his lungs & ribs.
Seems smokers are also at risk of kidney cancer. Something that I didn't know until I Googled it just now. Obesity is the second risk factor.
http://www.cancer.gov/cancertopics/wyntk/kidney/page4

Cancer scares the hell out of me. Most of my relatives died of cancer as have many of my friends. :(

[Useless]

Harry - I don't know what to say. If an Internet hug is possible, I'm hugging you right now. You have me teary-eyed, my friend.

[bluebrit]

Cancer just sucks big ones. So many people I know have had it and lost their lives to it. Harry is a good friend and a good man and this news has left me stunned.

[Dr Bizzaro]

I'm in shock. My thoughts go out to the Big Man and his family and friends.

[MeatPounder]

That is so sad, Harry my heart goes out to you

[SheepGuy]

Fuck. Very sad to to hear this.

[Fonz]

OMFG, I have no words for this. This just doesn't seem right...

[LeRoy]

So sad to hear this news. Mr. Mary Lou helped me so much.

I'm so grateful to have met him and spending time @ OTB listening to his shows.

Nothin but love for you MML!

[Voltar]

Cancer sucks so bad!
first my brother, who is dieing with a stage 4 brain tumor(4 of them actually) and now MML too...
it really does seem an epidimic is happening...it really really does seem like cancer happens 10 fold compared to how much it use to..
man this sucks...i remember helpping MML when he started in this business...and teaching him about where to put his banners on his first free site...
sorry to repeat myself, but this sucks!
so very very sad...

and ditto on all the love you are getting MML!!!

[CrazySy]

I have no idea what to say, this really sucks. :(

[Ramster]

This just really really sucks. My thoughts go out to MrMaryLou and Jean and the kids.

[Emerald]

:( Like the rest of us.. I don't know what to say except you are a great man Harry and this just seems so unfair :(

[babymaker]

Damn, sorry to hear this news :( I expect a miricle though :) I won't give up hope yet, MML is a tough great guy! :)

[JustRobert]

:( Like the rest of us.. I don't know what to say except you are a great man Harry and this just seems so unfair :(

Exactly! MML, I am also sending you a big hug from another teary eyed man :(

[pc]

MML :) keep it strong. God works in mysterious ways and you never know what another day may bring into you doors.

[SimonT]

We're going to say a little prayer tonight for you and your family MML, very sad news.

[Bill]

I like to think death isn't so bad for the person approaching it, I am not religious, but I will be wishing for for the best of all possible futures for MML.

It's to his family and friends, and our cammunity here. that I offer and share deep sorrow.

When our time comes, may we all have the best death's that our fate can allow.

[plateman]

I am so sorry to hear this, my heart goes out to MML and his family and all his closest friends, I am speechless

[bDok]

fuck. :(

|mml|

[Nymph]

I was so hoping for a much better outcome. This is just wrong, why does the worst shit have to happen to the best people.

MML, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers |smooch|

[Preacher]

MML, I don't come by the board much anymore but you are always in my thoughts. I am deeply sorry to hear this news. :(

[Mr Spock]

sorry to hear that

[spookyx]

keep fighting it MML big hugs from me.

[Simon]

I've been back to this thread several times yesterday and today, but couldn't make myself accept what I'd read enough to reply.

Harry ... stay strong my friend, you're in my thoughts all the time and if there's any possibility for a better outcome I very much wish that for you.


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[terry]

I too cannot express myself right now. Im really sorry to hear this.

[RedCherry]

I am so sorry Harry, I wish the outcome had been better. Cancer took both my parents, and many of the people on my mother's side of the family.

One thing I want to share is LOOK for alternatives. Maybe this can help you. I was sitting across from a couple that were talking about their friend had stage 4 brain cancer and was given the prognosis of 2 years with chemo, 5 without. She chose neither, and went on an Alkaline Diet for cancer. They said she went in for an MRI last month, and with the exception of some scarring, there was no evidence of the cancer, and it has been 3 years.

I don't know if it will help you, but it sure can't hurt at this point. I would do some googling and see if this is something you could try, and if there are any homeopaths or naturalpaths near you that are familiar with this treatment. Cancer cannot exist in an Alkaline environment.

My father had an appointment to go to a center for alternative treatments for his mesothelioma and died of a heart attack before he could. Don't wait, prove the doctors wrong!

[Mike-mijen]

Wow..this sucks...

[Pagan]

Damn damn damn damn damn!! I am so very stunned beyond belief. Just like Simon, I have had to go back and read this over to even try to understand this. Losing friends just hurts so much, and there is literally nothing we can do.

One of my mainstream groups uses the virtual candles at Gratefullness.Org at times like this. You can leave messages, much like a guestbook. The candles stay lit for 48 hours. I did set one up for MML - http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/candles.cfm?l=eng&gi=GGMML. There is just soooo little we can do but show our support.

[hashbury]

I also read this thread over and over and over and just do not believe it. I dont have many friends but I sure as hell considered harry one. We might not have met in person, but I feel like he is a part of me.
I used to hang out in the chatroom and he would show me the errors on my freesites and give me a chance to fix them before reviewing them. He would tell me better ways to make my freesites to attract more sales.

Lately I have been so busy just trying to make ends meet I have not been able to get in the chatroom and hang out. Even when I saw the post spooky made about no one being in the chatroom I still couldnt make time to go in there.
I finally started making some time to go to on the bench, but that was when harry started cancelling them.
I cant even describe how bad I feel now.

[Useless]

One of my mainstream groups uses the virtual candles at Gratefullness.Org at times like this. You can leave messages, much like a guestbook. The candles stay lit for 48 hours. I did set one up for MML - http://www.gratefulness.org/candles/candles.cfm?l=eng&gi=GGMML. There is just soooo little we can do but show our support.Thank you, Pagan. I just lit a candle. I find myself struggling with this more today than yesterday.

[docholly]

i am just stunned. But on an up note I did talk with Harry tonight -- I am ever the optimist even in the most dire of situations and just talking to him gave me a little peace of mind.

I intend on bugging him to the end... |kissass| sadly but with love.

[JustRobert]

Thanks again to Pagan, I lit a candle as well.

[GonZo]

Horrible
Another very nice guy in a sometimes grubby business.
I dont know what to say.

[buttster]

MML you hang in there, these doctors are wrong lots of times, lousy fucking news for one of the good guys. I lit a candle for you to big guy!!!

[RedCherry]

Thanks Pagan, I lit a candle too for him. I keep thinking about you on and off all day, hoping that you can find some kind of alternative that will reverse the cancer's course.

[Ms Naughty]

I'm so sad to hear this. Harry you are in our thoughts xx

[oldbrad]

Haven't posted yet either because I don't know what to say. I wish you the best.

In the past year I have known 2 different people with stage 4 cancers and given three months that are still alive and doing as well as possible. Modern medicine can be a great thing and miracles can happen and I hope that is the outcome for you as well.

[Jel]

Ah damn :( Don't know what to say really, but if you read this thread MML, maybe you can take some strength from what oldbrad has posted in the reply before this one.

[bluemoney]

I too am at a loss for words. But I do know I fucking hate Cancer, It has robbed me of numerous friends and relatives.

[Thomas]

That sucks!

Lungcancer killed my mom :(

/Thomas

[h3ads.com]

I am really sorry man and I understand your feelings I have my dad now dying with Cancer anytime. Very sad

[Sumrpal]

I am so sorry to hear this. I have well met MrMaryLou and remember him as one of the good ones. In the last 3 years I have lost 5 family & friends, including my Dad, to cancer. I hate it. I hate it with all my heart.

God bless, Harry

[Evil Chris]

Really sorry to hear this.
I hope you're surrounded by loved ones.

[DIVAD3]

This is very sad news indeed! I have been off line now for several months except for acessing the web through my phone. Therefore I have not taken the time to read much of the board over the past months. This sad news is the first of what I am reading from logging in. As someone has mentioned prior. It leaves one w/o words to say, and in a state of aww.

[sue-fl]

I'm so sorry MML and so saddened by the news. My thoughts and prayers are with you, and I wish you the best. To MML's family and friends I'm so sorry and my heart goes out to all of you.

[EmporerEJ]

I barely know him, but met him, spoke with him, and he seems like a good guy. Sorry to hear about this.

[virgohippy]

JustRobert keyed me into the news. I haven't been around in a while, but that's not because of anyone here, least of all you MML, just been working double over-time on other things.

MML, you've been a huge source of wisdom for me, and I know I'm not alone. I'm deeply saddened by this news. I hope you find peace with all your loved ones. My prayers are with you.

I don't know what else to say... I guess this naive young hippy hoped you'd be around forever...

[The Epic]

I'm pretty new to the scene here, but I know that when I wasn't sure of stuff MML always offered his advice and knowledge and overall just seems to be a great guy. Unfortunately I'm broke as a joke, but I will be putting up the links for his sites on mine.

Hopefully the docs are wrong about this, best wishes to you and your family.

[CD Smith]

Very sad news. I can only begin to imagine...

Anyway I'll say this one thing -- It's not over til it's over. Meaning plan for the worst but hope for the best, and never give up the fight.

[Kre8t0r]

I was just passed this thread.. MML I wish you the best, keep fighting! You were always a great friend, just don't know what else to say..Sending good vibes man.